Just let it go....!

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Marianne Williamson wrote this beautiful prayer....

This season,
may I be reborn
washed clean
made new
forgiven
spectacularly loved.
Remind me who I am.
Forgive me for my shadow sides,
please heal my broken wings
that I might fly
with You.
Amen

Every single moment is a new moment to heal, to forgive...yourself and others and to start over!  Grasp every moment and do not hesitate to release the past as this is where life gone by truly belongs.  When we carry the burden of pain, sadness, resentment, fear or anger into our present or worse our future, we shadow the light ahead of us and block our vision from seeing a beautiful and peaceful life ahead of us.

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

The Awakening.....part 1

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My friend Heather sent me an email about The Awakening but the attachment was missing, I in my haste went looking for this online and then came up with this clip which is absolutely beautiful and sums up many of the blogs I have been posting.  Heather has since sent me another attachment which is equally as wonderful and I will share this with you next week!

Although this post is short and sweet, please take the time to watch, feel and absorb the beauty of this You Tube clip!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ot810rzbdE

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor xxx

Authenticity

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This email arrived in my inbox from Sue Okell of Life Change Secrets.  As I haven't blogged about an inspirational person in a while I thought this was wholly appropriate.  If you would like more information on Sue Okell or Life Change Secrets you can subscribe to her newsletter and keep up to date with lots of interesting information on http://lifechangesecrets.com/

Article:

How authentic are you? How open to experience? How committed to
achieving your dreams? I ask after watching Stacey Solomon on TV.
For those of you who don't know the name, Stacey took part in the X
Factor - a singing contest here in the UK similar to American Idol.

She didn't win - but has since gone on to carve a very nice career
for herself, not on the strength of her singing, though she has a
great voice, but primarily because of her authenticity and
personality.

Stacey is, if we're honest, a bit bonkers! And therein lies her
charm. When I first heard her speak and giggle, I thought, hello,
here's another English eccentric. Yet her talent, enthusiasm,
radiant smile, infectious laughter and big heart have won her
legions of fans.

You can dress her up in all sorts of stage gear, change the set and
the backing singers; place her in the jungle with a group of other
so called celebrities (she took part in 'I'm a Celebrity, Get me
Out of Here') and make her eat creepy crawlies, but she will still
emerge as the same, slightly bonkers but somewhat endearing, Stacey.

She's the girl next door who took her opportunity and ran with it -
and that brings several things to mind.

Firstly if you want something, you have to put yourself out there,
find the opportunity and take action. For three years running
Stacey stood for hours and hours on end in a seemingly endless line
of wannabes just hoping for an audition. She persevered. She
followed her dream.

And when she got that audition, she went all out to win - her
motivation to do so, to build a better life for her son. But she
didn't win.

At this point, she could of course have gone home, beat herself up
and told herself she had blown her big break, wasn't good enough
and never would be, but she didn't. She dusted herself down and
determined to take every opportunity that came her way as a result
of the vast publicity the show generated.

And the thing that made us notice her - her uniqueness - is what
has secured her future career.

Stacey is every day carving new opportunities and grabbing them
with both hands, giggling about her lucky breaks and gleefully
standing as a shining example of self belief, motivation, action,
perseverance and above all, authenticity and openness.

People love authentic people - they can see through charades. So my
reflection this week is about how important it is for us all to
value our own talents and gifts, whatever they may be; to stay true
to ourselves and our values; to be open to experience, however
left-field our opportunities may seem, and to persevere in the
pursuit of our dreams.

Things don't always go to plan, but if we can learn to accept
rather than fight this, stay open and look to the next opportunity,
then we are well placed to build the life we have, as yet, only
dreamed of.

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

The Blame Game

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"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent".  Eleanor Roosevelt

Do you ever play the blame game?  The one where you put the blame on loved one's, family, friends, colleagues and bosses for making you feel bad?  There is no shame in saying yes to this question as the majority of us do it ........often!

Louise L Hay says if you are pointing the finger of blame at someone, then turn your other three fingers back to yourself!   Usually what annoys you about other's behaviour is it mirrors a behaviour pattern within you that you don't like and needs to be addressed.

When we blame someone we are giving away our power, we are saying that this person has been given a starring role in our life to make us feel small, angry, fearful or resentful.  As you know from other posts, my belief is there should only be one starring role in your life and that should be YOU!

In these circumstances, take back your power.  Do not play the blame game.  Remember you can choose how you want to feel and act at all times. Acknowledge that the behaviour of that person has caused offense.  Either put firm boundaries in place to prevent the situation occurring again in the future or check in with yourself and ask why are you feeling bad about what has been said or done. 

Do you need to release any old behavioural patterns that are limiting you?  Do you need to walk away from a person or situation that is no longer serving your highest purpose?  Do what ever it takes to make you feel strong and in control of your life.

When you release the need to blame you take control of your life, your emotions and your well being!

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

Shake your maracas!

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For sometime now clients, friends and my lovely neighbour Karen has been recommending that I try Zumba!  Time can be an issue for me as my workload often dictates when I am free to attend classes.  I caught an info-mercial on TV a few weeks ago and was persuaded to part with £39 for a selection of Zumba dvd's and more importantly some shakers (just like shaking you maracas!!!).

I eagerly awaited by box of goodies and immediately put one of the dvd's on to try!  I had my grandson with me at the time and he was not the least bit impressed as I shook my booty and rocked my groove...!  I think user error may have been at fault as I have had a slightly tricky hip and a dull ache in the small of my back since.  It would appear that my girating along with Beto, the founder of Zumba may have been a little too enthusiastic for a first attempt!

However, I am not one to give up easily so I will persevere and see where the rhythm takes me....!

This is what Zumba UK says:

The Zumba program fuses mesmerising Latin rhythms and easy-to-follow dance steps combined with workout moves to create a unique fitness program that will blow you away.  The music gets your feet tapping and your heart thumping! Mixing all Latin genres of music with all Latin styles of dance such as Salsa, Merengue, Mambo, Samba, Cha Cha, Cumbia, Reaggaeton, Flamenco even Bollywood and more.  Zumba is all about the music, dancing and having fun.  Zumba enthusiasts achieve long-term benefits while experiencing a total blast in one exciting hour of calorie-burning, body-energizing, awe-inspiring movements meant to engage and captivate for life!  It’s ridiculous not to be captivated by this Zumba craze!  This is the new fitness hype all around the world!   Not only does Zumba help you remain active, fresh and alive throughout the day, it decreases stress levels and makes you feel more energetic and happy.  The best thing is that it helps you postpone the aging process, what a bonus!
Every Zumba lesson is one big party, you don’t even notice you are actually working out and losing weight, it’s just like going to the club!   No demanding choreography!   Zumba is there for everybodywho loves up tempo music.  During the warming up you immediately get blown away by the invigorating Latin Dance music. Up tempo and slow rhythms interchange each other.  Zumba is addictive and you want more each time.

Its early days but this is one bug I wouldn't mind being bitten by and if all else fails I can still shake my maracas!

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

The flow of abundance....!

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Another new week has arrived!  Welcome to Monday Mantra.  I have been researching the work of Joe Vitale and looking at his wealth programme.  Therefore it felt fitting to work on a mantra from this research.

"I magnetise prosperity to me with ease and I am abundantly supplied at all times!"

The newspapers, television programmes and politician would have us living in a state of fear regarding money.  Their constant negative reporting on recession, lack and talk of another great depression goes along way to create negative feelings about our own prosperity and abundance.

Successful businesses are going bust, high street stores report huge losses, the property market has taken a downward slide and the banks are exerting caution on lending.  All of this creates an air of belief that there is a lack of financial security for us all.  However.......if you choose not to buy into the frenzy of fear, you can find yourself feeling rather flush and affluent!

Manifesting abundance into your life is easy if you believe you are worthy and if you believe in a little magic.  Abundance isn't just about increased financial flow, abundance brings more.....more time, more opportunities, more creativity, more happiness, more contentment, more of all the good things you would like to attract!

(I would like to let you into a secret, whilst writing this blog, the phone rang and a booking was made for an event that certainly increases my own financial flow......that was fast even by by my manifesting standards!!!!)

Try working with this mantra and see a significant increase in your prosperity and abundance.

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

I am what I am...!

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This is a well known song but it encapsulates everything I am trying to currently live by and encouraging others to do so too.  The writer of this song embraces their true magnificence and is happy to shout it out to the world. 

So clear your throat, take a deep breath, throw a feather boa around your neck (entirely optional) and in your best Shirley Bassey voice sing........


I am what I am
I am my own special creation
So come take a look
Give me the hook
Or the ovation
It's my world
That I want to have a little pride
My world
And it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam
Till I can say
I am what I am

I am what I am
I don't want praise I don't want pity
I bang my own drum
Some think it's noise I think it's pretty
And so what if I love each sparkle and each bangle
Why not see things from a different angle
Your life is a shame
Till you can shout out I am what I am


I am what I am
And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck
Sometimes the aces sometimes the deuces
It's one life and there's no return and no deposit
One life so it's time to open up your closet
Life's not worth a dam till you can shout out
I am what I am

I am what I am

I am what I am
And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck sometimes the aces sometimes the deuces
It's one life and there's no return and no deposit
One life so it's time to open up your closet
Life's not worth a dam till you can shout out
I am what I am

I am I am I am good
I am I am I am strong
I am I am I am worthy
I am I am I belong

I am

I am

Who whoooo etc.
I am

I am I am I am useful
I am I am I am true
I am I am somebody
I am as good as you

Yes I am

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

Well wallow then.....!

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I had a particularly lovely day on Tuesday!  I was in that lovely place of peaceful contentment, happy with my lot.  I was  feeling very positive about the world and life in general.  As I merrily prepared the dinner for Mr T coming home, I was looking forward to seeing his happy face coming through the door!

Well Mr T did come through the door but his face was not happy!  He had received a congestion charge of £75 from a recent trip to London.  He has a Prius which has previously been exempt from such charges but due to a change in the law in January, he was obliged to pay.  To say he was not a happy chappy is an understatement.  He grumbled through dinner, moaned through dessert and huffed through his cup of tea.

I tried to cajole him out of his strop, I told him to look on the positive side, I told him to be glad that he can afford to pay it.  I told him not to let it spoil his day.  I advised him not to be negative about money as he could bring more bills his way.  All of my good intentioned advice was met with frowns, growls and I am sure I saw a gnashing of teeth when he told me that it has spoiled his day!

It suddenly dawned on me that sometimes we don't want to be pulled out of a bad mood, sometimes we just want to wallow and moan and groan..........for a little while at least!  Sometimes you just have to feel the emotion and come out of it when you are good and ready. I do believe my happy, chirpy disposition may be adding to his misery.

So....I have come in to write my blog and left Mr Grumpy to wallow for an hour or so. I say wallow, as this is what Paul McGee suggests you do when you have had a set back.  This is taken from his book SUMO (Shut up and Move On) which interestingly was bought for me by Mr. T.!

"So what can we do and who should we turn to when we suffer a setback? I’m known as ‘The S.U.M.O. Guy’ because I teach people to Shut Up, Move On! I show people how to Shut up and stop thinking and behaving in a way that hinders their success and to move forward with their lives. Some people believe that is all we need to do after a setback, Shut Up, Move On. However, for many of us, part of the process of moving involves us first having what I term ‘Hippo Time’. Hippo Time is when we allow ourselves some time out to wallow (as hippos do in mud) and to acknowledge our frustration and disappointment and perhaps even anger. We’re not robots. We cannot simply turn our emotions on and off at the flick of a switch. What Hippo Time does, is give you the opportunity to experience your emotional lows and to be honest about those feelings

However, in order to make Hippo Time a helpful rather than a harmful experience, make
sure you avoid three kinds of people:
1. ‘The Hijackers’. These are the people who take over your Hippo Time with comments such as “I know how you feel, the same thing happened to me”
2. ‘The Awfulisers’. These people give too much sympathy and can make you feel even worse about your situation. They say things such as “That’s terrible, you must feel awful ……. I had a friend with an in-growing toe nail and he had to have his toe removed!”
3. ‘The Happies’. These are the ‘I’m really positive but I have no grasp of reality’ people. You lose your legs in an accident and they smile sincerely and say “At least you’ve still got your arms”. Or your partner finishes your relationship and they reply “Well, plenty more fish in the sea"

How To Make Hippo Time A Helpful Experience?
1. Allow yourself to ‘feel bad’. It’s actually OK to feel down. Give yourself permission to do so.
2. Be careful who you speak to. Find someone who will listen without feeling obliged to offer advice.
3. Avoid hasty decisions. Allow yourself time to work through your feelings before taking action.
4. Learn from it. Whatever you’ve experienced, from a missed sale to a failed relationship, there is always something to learn. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?”
5. Treat yourself. This does not equate to binge shopping, but a small treat can be the ideal ‘pick me up’. You’re then in a better frame of mind to move forward.
6. Treat others. Do something positive for someone else for no particular reason. You’ll feel an ‘inner satisfaction’ for having done so. Feeling good about yourself prevents you slipping into pity party mode.
7. Change the record. It’s not helpful to tell too many people about your issue. You can end up sounding like a broken record. Remember to re-tell is to re-live and that is not always helpful.
8. Make space. You may need time simply to be alone with your thoughts, as opposed to talking through your issue with others. Personal ‘alone time’ may well be the order of the day.
9. Decide on desirable distractions. Perhaps what you need is to stop thinking about your issue altogether. Watch a movie, take some exercise or surf the net. When you do decide to re-focus, you often have a fresh perspective on your situation.
10. Write down your ‘downs’. Putting your thoughts and feelings down on paper can be a helpful way of off loading and working through your issue. Seeing things on paper can create a sense of clarity as well as being an honest account of how you’re feeling at the time. You’re then in a position to decide how best to move on.

Whichever of the above helps, remember this - Hippo Time is temporary. Successful people make sure they don’t spend too long wallowing and realise that setbacks are temporary, but quitting lasts a life time.

See more of Paul's work at http://www.thesumoguy.com/default.aspx

(I think I may have been one of those annoying "Happies" this evening!)

I think I will resist asking him if he can find the gift in this situation!!! I can just imagine the response!  

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

It's your life...!

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As a coach, I speak to a lot of people who want to make huge changes in their lives.  However, more often than not they come up with lots of reasons why it is not possible to make the changes happen.  Very often they blame their partner, their parents, their children and their boss at work.  They put obstacles in the way of the very dreams they wish to achieve.

These people are not taking ownership of their lives, they are handing over their power to others and playing small in life.  They feel like victims who have no strength or conviction to overcome these hurdles.  Chris Widener is a coach who has written a really good article on this very subject.

Take Ownership of Your Life
Chris Widener

There are lots of things we desire to own in this life, aren’t there? Many of them are fine and dandy, as the saying goes. But there is the most important thing we own that many people never think about owning, and that is their life! They spend a lot of time thinking about the next set of golf clubs, a vacation home, or a new piece of jewelry, but they never really understand that they own their life. Whenever it comes time to be responsible, they end up placing the blame somewhere else, rather than realizing that they are the owner and so they are responsible! With that in mind, here are some thoughts about the ownership your have of your life:
You only own one person – you.
You don’t own your spouse. You don’t own your boss. You don’t own your kids (with kids, you are in charge of them, given the tremendous responsibility of teaching them to own their own lives, but you don’t own them). No, there is only one person you own, and that is you. That is great news! Now you don’t have to worry about running anybody else’s life! This is a temptation for us isn’t it? We just know how everybody else should do it and with many of them we try to take ownership and run their life! Well, hands off! Take control of your own life since it is the only one you own. You wouldn’t try to drive somebody else’s car from the grocery store parking lot, so don’t try to drive their life either! You own you – so stick to you!
You get to choose what to do with only one person – you.
Once you have come to realize that you only own you, you get to get to the fun part – running your life and making it what you want it to be. Instead of choosing what other people should do, you get to focus in on choosing what you get to do. You get to begin to shape and mold your life. This is exciting! Aren’t you glad you don’t have to run everybody else’s lives anymore? I am!
Your ownership means that you can do what you want with yourself. Your life is a blank sheet of paper. You can choose whatever you want to do. You can have whatever profession you want. You can earn as much money as you desire. You can marry whoever suits your fancy (as long as you suit their fancy too by the way). Stop wishing and start choosing. I like to use the example of a person who is thirty years old and doesn’t like their income. I tell them that if the so chose, they could go back to school, get a degree, go to medical school and by age forty be in a high-income profession. Then they would have 25 years of high wages to support the lifestyle they desire. You can choose whatever you want and take whatever actions you choose to rectify any situation you are in!
Your ultimate destination in life is set by you, not somebody else.
Where will you end up? Wherever you choose to end up. You will do well to get it in your mind that someday you will be seventy years old and you will be at a certain place and the only thing that got you there was the choices you made all along the way. Imagine that. If you are thirty, you have forty years – FORTY YEARS – of choices that can put you right where you want to be at the end of your life! So you’re fifty-five? Who cares? You probably have at least twenty years left! You still have TWENTY YEARS to get yourself to whatever destination you choose. Do you know what a person can do in twenty years? ALMOST ANYTHING THEY SET THEIR HEART ON!
The responsibility for your life, and what you accomplish, is found in one person – you.
You will accomplish what you choose to accomplish. You will make and save as much money as you choose to. You will write as many books as you choose to. You will take as many vacations as you choose to. You will have the kind of relationships you choose to. What you accomplish is up to you! Take that seriously!
Focus on your values and live them out, regardless of what other people do. This is key. We do not live our lives in a vacuum. We need to be very thoughtful about what we believe, about what our values are, and what our morality is. These things will all shape how we go about exerting ownership of our lives. But once we have come to understand these things for ourselves, the power to live our lives increases tremendously. Now it doesn’t matter what anybody else does. It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are. We live out of our morality, values and beliefs. These are the principles that transcend everything else and enable us to set our course!
I know this seems like a lot of responsibility, but I consider it a freedom and a privilege! We get one life to live and we get to shape it however we want. That is one job I want to take seriously and not mess up! With diligence, hard work, and a lot of right decisions, I’ll get to the end of my life deeply fulfilled. I hope you will to

Chris's website is http://www.madeforsuccess.com/

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

Truly gifted!

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Happy New Week!

Today's Monday Mantra is "I recognise and trust my intuitive ability!"

"You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you'll discover will be wonderful. What you'll discover is yourself.” Alan Alda

We are all incredibly intuitive souls.  We are spiritual beings experiencing a human existence.  We are all born equally gifted with the four "clairs."

Clairvoyance - Clear sight, we can all see the future, spirits and Angels.
Clair audience - Clear Hearing, we can all hear messages from spirit, Angels and our own inner self.
Clairsentience - Clear Feeling, we can all feel when spirit and Angels are with us.
Clair cognizance - Clear knowing, we all know the answers to our own questions.

Although we are all born equal and gifted, we rarely tap into this universal wisdom within ourselves.  We believe that only a special few are chosen to be gifted.  We believe that those who hear voices are best seeing a medical professional as something is seriously amiss!!

Inside each of us in an unlimited amount of knowledge, expertise and wisdom.  No one will ever know what is best for you other than YOU!

Meditation helps to quieten the mind chatter long enough for you to really listen to your inner guidance.  Try sitting quietly and ask yourself about your life purpose, your relationships, your career, your future or your dreams.  What comes to you is not your imagination speaking, fanciful thinking or something alien, it really will be your own inner intuition.  Try not to force anything to happen, just be open and willing to hear, feel, see or know what you are trying to tell yourself.

Inner wisdom is always positive and uplifting and everything suggested will be for your highest good and purpose.  If you have a negative experience it is probably your ego or lack of self belief that is present.

If you listen carefully, it will not only be me that you hear telling you that you are truly magnificent, it will be your own inner voice cheering you on to greater things.

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

A prayer for Madeleine

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This blog is dedicated to Madeleine McCann and her family.  I simply offer up a prayer for this family who have lived in daily torment since the disappearance of their beautiful child.  Their faith and quiet composure are an inspiration to us all as they bear their worst fears with grace and dignity.

This prayer is taken from Peace 4 the Missing website.

Dear Lord,

We ask of you,
keep these children safe and sound,
let no harm come before they are found.
They are lost from their family,
from the ones they love,
return them home,
and protect them from above.
Place your loving arms around them today,
guide them safely back home,
to You this we pray.
Amen.

Loving Blessings are sent to this beautiful child and her family.

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

The heart of the matter!

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On Monday I talked about promoting a healthy heart with physical exercise, I thought today's post should look at promoting a healthy heart with the spiritual exercise of meditation.  Here's an easy heart chakra meditation for energy clearing, followed by visualization for energy balancing and feeling love and compassion. This is a gentle relaxation tool to balance the heart chakra and to fill your entire being with a sense of self love and healing.

Meditating on the heart chakra can release stress, anger, and anxiety by removing blocks and allowing for a fresh, positive energy flow. It encourages joy and a feeling of being worthy and loved.

What is the Heart Chakra?

According to Hindu and Buddhist beliefs, there are energy centers inside each person which are called chakras. Some describe them as spinning wheels inside the body that are able to transform energy from one frequency to another. They act as a mediator between one's inner self and the outside world.

Sometimes chakras can become blocked. In the case of the heart chakra, this can bring about feelings of resentment and self-hatred, making it difficult to give and receive love. Meditating on the heart chakra can help remove a block and get rid of any negative energy.

Heart Chakra Healing

Begin by sitting down, keeping a straight posture. Bring the hands together and place the knuckles of both thumbs over the heart and feel it beating. With eyes closed, take a few minutes to concentrate only on your heartbeat. Feel the power and energy that each beat represents.

Next, place the right palm over the centre of the chest with the left palm on top of the right. Think about how warm your chest feels. Now, envision a radiant emerald light that is coming in and filling the body. See this light as entering through the heart and after it travels around the rest of the body, returning to the heart bringing a tingling refreshing feeling to the entire body.

Take a few minutes to experience the joy that love brings. Know that to truly love others, one must love themselves. Before ending the meditation, take the palms and place them towards the sky, outstretch the arms, and envision sending some of this wonderful positive energy into the universe.

Balancing the Heart Chakra

By keeping the heart chakra balanced, a person is able to experience love and self-esteem. By getting rid of any negative feelings and energy, a person can more readily give out love and show compassion. Chakra meditation isn't only limited to the heart chakra, but, different types can be done to any of the chakras in the body either individually or together.

The heart chakra is the fourth chakra of the seven energy centres located in the body. Long recognized by Hindu and Buddhist traditions, meditation on the heart chakra can get rid of adverse feelings and emotions, while allowing pure love and energy to flow through the body.

Love, Light and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

Great Love

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25 years ago today I married a wonderful man!  I was only 18 years old and even though I was young in years, I had the sense and maturity to know that I had found "great love" We had an incredibly happy and contented marriage until he was taken away from me with such suddenness that my life shattered in front of my eyes leaving a void and an ache where my heart was.  We were married for 19 beautiful years.  Martin left me the gift of two fabulous daughters, a home full of love and secured the future financially.  His passing led me to find a new life working and healing with Angels.

I grew up with him, saw the world through his eyes and became the person I am today because of him.  He showed me that relationships should be built on unwavering trust, warmth, love and protection.  Martin was the embodiment of "great love."

After a few years, lonely and in need of being loved again and desperately wanting to love someone, I wrote a letter to the Angels asking them to bring the perfect person into my life.  They certainly answered my prayers. I was also told by a clairvoyant that Martin had helped me to find love again with Mr. T.  (I like to think that the Angels and Martin worked together). There are many similarities in that they are the same age, both born in Glasgow yet brought up in Ayrshire.  Their football teams would have played against each other.  Mr. T also possesses all the attributes that I had experienced in my previous marriage, loving, gentle, kind, trustworthy, warm and protective.

Everyone deserves "big love", "great love" and more importantly "for a lifetime love."  No one should settle for anything less.  Out of heartbreaking sadness came happiness and so much more love than I could have believed possible.  Both of these wonderful men inspire me believe in the impossible.  I have one holding my hand in the here and now, encouraging me to reach out and achieve my dreams and the other's spirit protecting me and encouraging me to live a life that has meaning without him in it.

If you have the love of your life in your life now, treasure them and tell them how special they are to you.  If you are looking for the love of your life, believe that you deserve "great love." and that is what you will attract.  Also, consider dropping a line to the Angels and give them your wish list!  Unlike lightening, "great love" does strike in the same place twice!

Love and Blessings to you all and especially to the two wonderful men in my life.

Jean Fisher-Taylor xxx

These boots are made for walking......!

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Today's Monday Mantra is:

"I take positive steps everyday to maintain a healthy heart"

Mr T came home last week with a gift for me!  Flowers?, chocolates?, perfume?.........???  No a pedometer!  His workplace is doing a 10,000 step challenge.  You wear a pedometer on your waist band and aim to walk 10,000 steps everyday.  This encourages you to walk a little more every day to increase your health and well being, something I am a big fan of this year!

As you know from previous posts, I am a little bit competitive when it comes to a sporting challenge with Mr. T so I took the gift with good grace and five days on I am the daily challenge star winner!!!  That is the motivation I need to keep up the challenge.

I have included the information about this challenge from the NHS website http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/loseweight/Pages/10000stepschallenge.aspx

Research shows that walking 10,000 steps a day will significantly improve your health. Putting one foot in front of the other can build stamina, burn excess calories and give you a healthier heart. 

What's so great about walking?
Walking can be done almost anywhere, at any time, and in any weather. It's also a great way to get from A to B, which means you can fit walking into your daily routine.

How do I know how many steps I'm taking?The average person walks between 3,000 and 4,000 steps per day, and 1,000 steps is the equivalent of around 10 minutes of brisk walking. To find out how many steps you take each day, buy a pedometer similar to the one in the video at the bottom of this page. You can get a simple one that tracks steps for as little as £4. Clip it firmly to your belt or waistband, and it will measure every step you take: around the house, across the office, window shopping, to school or the park. You might find that you walk almost 10,000 steps a day, or that you walk less than you think. Whatever your results, knowing how far you can walk in a day will help motivate you.

How many calories will I burn if I walk 10,000 steps a day?You'll typically use between 300 and 400 calories by walking 10,000 steps. For sustainable weight loss, you should aim for a calorie deficit - that is, more calories used than consumed - of around 600 calories per day.

What if I don’t take any exercise at the moment?
If you aren’t used to being active, start slowly. No one expects 10,000 steps on the first day! If you're worried about your joints or any existing health condition, talk to your GP. If your joints are a problem, you can see if your local swimming pool holds exercise classes. The water helps to support your joints while you move, and once you lose a bit of weight that will reduce the pressure on your joints.

Do I need any special clothing?
We recommend a pair of cushioned trainers, which most people have already.

What’s the best way to start?
Using your pedometer, find out how many steps you take during a normal day. It could be as little as 900 or as much as 5,000 depending on what you do. Interestingly, city dwellers who use public transport tend to walk more than country dwellers. Aim to take your highest total number of steps daily for a week or so, remembering to log the numbers every night in a diary to keep track. As soon as you feel comfortable, try to increase your steps to 10,000 a day. 

 10,000 steps sounds like a huge amount. How do I fit all that walking into my busy day?
Try these tips for getting more steps into your life:

• Get off the bus early and walk the rest of the way home or to work.
• Walk to the station instead of taking the car or bus.
• Invest in a ‘sholley’ or shopping trolley and shop locally if you can.
• Walk the children to school, whatever the weather.
• Get fit with Fido - walk the dog. For more tips and advice see the link on the right of the page.

I find walking boring. How can I make it more fun?

• Find a walking partner so you have someone to chat to as you walk.
• Get an MP3 player and listen to your favourite tracks or pod casts as you go.
• Remember how much good you're doing for your health by walking, and enjoy the scenery, shops and people you see.

How long do I have to keep walking?
The rest of your life! It takes a while for a regular activity to become a healthy habit, so just keep going and it will become second nature. You’ll soon find yourself doing many more than 10,000 steps some days.

What if I can’t walk for a few days due to illness or a holiday?Just start again when you can, and build up slowly if you've been ill. The sooner you get back into the exercise groove, the better. When going on a holiday, choose one where you'll have plenty of opportunities to walk, for instance along the beach or in the countryside.

Is walking enough? Or should I think about other exercise as well?
It's recommended that adults get at least 30 minutes of moderate intensity physical activity, at least five days a week. That could all come from brisk walking, or it can come from a mixture of physical activities.

Once you're feeling the benefits of 10,000 steps a day, you're bound to start thinking about other forms of activity. You could visit your local fitness centre and see what's on offer. Some people enjoy competitive sports, others prefer sociable physical activity such as dancing.

I challenge you to join me and keep me posted on how well you are doing!

Much love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

A dose of Inspiration!

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Quite often on my blogs I have talked about inspirational people who have touched the world with their writing, teachings, spirit and courage.

Opportunities to be inspired are all around us and different things, people or events inspire each of us in very special and unique ways.

I want to ask you these questions to encourage you to think about the inspiration in your life.

Who inspires you?
What inspires you?
Where inspires you?
When are you inspired?
Why are you inspired?
How do YOU inspire others?

For me the answers would be:
Who - My two daughters.  They were touched by grief at such tender ages and yet they remain beautiful souls who have not let sadness and loss ruin their lives.  The oldest is a natural earth mother who brings up her son with love and gentleness. She is creative, productive and carries a workload that would daunt many.  The youngest is a free spirit who has followed her lifetime passion about animals into a career.  She has found love at a young age and is to be married.  My husband Mr T, he came into my life and brought more happiness than I could have ever hoped for.  He encourages me, coaches me and makes me want to reach for my hopes and dreams.  Louise Hay, encouraging people to love and heal themselves.
What - seeing courage, determination and strength in others.  Other people's compassionate nature.
Where - Being near water always awakens inspiration within me.  Overlooking the ocean in Hawaii is one of the most inspirational and spiritual moments in my life.
When - Inspiration comes when I need it most, when I am low, frightened, stuck or lost. But...also when I am happy and feeling positive.
Why - without inspiration, without belief in yourself or others, life would be difficult to bear
Who - I hope I inspire my family, my friends and my clients who come for treatments, healing, readings and coaching. 

When we are inspired by another it is usually because we possess the traits that we recognise and appreciate in others.

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor

I hope you dance!

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"Stifling an urge to dance is bad for your health - it rusts your spirit and your hips."  ~Terri Guillemets

I heard this song by Ronan Keating on the radio the other day and as I really listened to the words, I stopped to really listen and it made me think.  Do I always make the right choices? Do I make the most of the opportunities that come my way in life?, Do I walk through the doors that open for me?.  A simple song and yet the words hold a wealth of meaning.

Its a reminder not to sit on the sidelines of life, lets all get up and when we are given the chance, I hope we dance! It is my wish for us all that we experience life as a joyous dance.

Ronan Keating - I Hope You Dance!

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leaves you empty handed

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
and when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances but they’re worth taking
Loving might be a mistake but it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I hope you dance (time is a wheel in constant motion always)
I hope you dance (rolling us along)
I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on the years and wonder)
I hope you dance (where those years have gone)

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

Dance (time is wheel in constant motion always)
I hope you dance (rolling us along)
I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on the years and wonder)
I hope you dance (where those years have gone)

I hope you dance
I hope your dancing
I hope your dancing
I pray your dancing
I hope you dance

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

Perfect timing!

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The bank holiday has thrown me off course a little and I did not post a Monday Mantra....however, as nothing is cast in stone, I am posting to you today a Tuesday Mantra instead!

"I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing, right now!"

This mantra can really bring about the changes that may be required to shift us from where we are currently to where we need to be.  If we believe in our own innate ability to manifest and create the perfect blueprint of our life's dreams and desires, then we are only a thought away from changes.

I trust in a universal law of attraction that responds to my thoughts and feelings.  I use mantras to focus my thinking.  I use meditation to quieten the chatter in my mind long enough to really feel the changes I want to make.

The book The Key, is a workbook for The Secret.  In my workbook, I have written a list of things that I want to experience in this lifetime. Within a short time, I am ticking many of these things off the list as achieved!  I have also written mantras to help me focus on the key areas that are most important to me.  It's the belief that I am in the right place, at the right time that brings forth new opportunities.  When I am focused life works wonderfully well.  I achieve, I see and feel positive energies around me.  When I stray from that focus, life looks darker, worries seep in, fears erupt and I attract negative annoyances. (Especially when I am hormonal!)

However, this is only a human trait and I am happy that when I remember, I am only a thought away from banishing these fears and getting my focus back on track to a much more happier place where fears don't exist! I am back in the zone of being in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing. right now!

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor x

"Those were the days my friend....!"

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I have just been reminiscing with an old friend about days gone by!  It made me look at the friendship groups I have in my life and how each and every one of them has played a huge part in my life.  My oldest friend Antoinette (and I say this as it annoys her immensely as she is one month older than me!) has been in my life for 39 years.  We started school at the age of four.  She was a fiesty redhead and we made life long friends on the first day.  We were each other's bridesmaids.  She is only a phone call away! When I went to senior school, I met two rocks, Jane and Vicky who have given me the most laughter and fun in my life.

When life hit an all time low after losing my husband, these two girls were there helping me to move from the depths of despair to happier days.  My first job brought me my lovely friend Sally who took me under her wing and protected me.  My Civil Service years produced some of the happiest times of my life (work apart of course).  I met a friendship circle like no other, Liz (who passed away but left a legacy of laughter and ridiculous fun), Jenny and Margaret (two of the most glamourous women in the world who fail to age), Anne,(princess pashley, can burp louder than anyone I know) Jackie, Carole, Joy, Kevin and above all Cathy, a women of wisdom, genuine kindness and someone I admire so much.

Along the way, there have been many others, my sisters friends who adopted me, Carol, Kim, Ann and Val (the sisterhood who all bared their breasts on a drunken night in Spain).  My lovely friends Suzanne and Marion who have made me laugh until I have cried and have ached for days after our get togethers.  Mandy (An angel who appeared in my life, I wish I could take away the pain she has at this moment).  Sally, a neighbour who lost her husband six months after I lost mine.  We went through the worst times together and have seen happier days shine for us both.  Pasqua and Liz, a time of wind ups and incredible sillyness. My sister in-laws Tracy and Catherine and Gail.

Jan, Judith, Lin, Mandy, Linzi, Sammie, Angela, Maureen, Sharon (All met through my late husbands job as a police officer), rocks of support and kindness.

The friends who came along to help me on a new path and journey - Kim (adorable), Susan (my teacher and guru), Debbie (an Angel), Amanda (beautiful), Lucy (A wise one) and her lovely mum Karen. Kathleen (illuminated).

There have been so many new friends of late Jackie (from Happiness Coaching) Ros, Shirley, Sharon, Claire, Sue, Emma, Clare, Kirstie, Lorraine, Gabriella, Brenda, Heather,  Julie, Jane, from workshops and Reiki.  My newest friend a Twitter soul sister Carrie!

Finally, my sister Ann who I love with all my heart.  She knows me inside out, she listens to all my moans and groans, makes me laugh, believes in me and is there for me always as I am for her and all my friends if they need me.

This hasn't been an exercise on "look how many friends I have" but one on looking back at the young years, the good times, the sad times,the worst times and seeing a tapestery of love, laughter and tears woven in as the people we call friends share every one of those times with us. Friends stand by you, they provide you with unconditional love and support and above all they wish the best of everything for you!

I hope you take the time to look back at the friendships in your life and treasure each and everyone of them!

Love and Blessings,

Jean Fisher-Taylor

Along the way